On a good day I am a hot mess, case in point:
Everyone says, in every situation, diet, exercise, relationships, work “If you do 80% the right way the other 20% will not matter”
This is a bit different than The Pareto principle that states that, for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes. So…I am confused. REALLY? 80% of my outcome comes from 20% of my efforts?
I think this is a way to not make us stress about being perfect. That it is okay to get an 80% (it is, by the way). But JFC….I feel like to make any impact on anything I have to be 100%. Examples to follow.
Diet. I can eat 80% perfectly, but if I phone in that 20% or have a beer, eat cake, all bets are off. I feel like hell, pants are tight, cant take a numero dos….all the bad stuff. So, no 80/20 there. Can you imagine the Pareto bullshit here? If I put 20% of effort into healthy eating, I will be 80% to where I need to be? Umm…no.
Career – if I gave 20% on a daily basis I would lose my job. I have to bring 150% every day and if someday I drop it to a low 120% then that is okay, but just that once. Okay, I might not lose my job but I would not feel like I deserved the job. Which is even worse. How about working with people who bring only their 60% game everyday? WORST. THING. EVER. I have ended friendships over low performance. Makes me insane. 100% plus only.
Friendships? If you don’t respond, or throw parties, or send a weekly or daily text affirming a certain group of people, they drop off the radar (thank God – not complaining here) so I guess that one is simply an epiphany while I write……………………………. So…strike that one, and sorry to those folks but if you cannot love me or be patient with my lack of time when I am underwater with multiple careers, husband, and 2 year old twins, too-da-fucking-loo. So, basically, friendships need to be 50/50, with lots of room to breathe and extended timeouts are rewarded with a hug, not an arched eyebrow.
Exercise. This is the one that the 80/20 works. If you decide to “yes, I will work out” 8 out of 10 days – YOU WIN. your body will change, your sleep will get better, your 20% of bad food decisions are washed away….sort of. But over all – yes, 80/20 is a success with exercise. AGAIN: Pareto Rule? Notsamuch.
That’s some shitty math right there, no wonder I am a hot mess.
That’s all I have to say about that.